What we remember
What we will remember foremost about Robin Williams now will be his suicide.
At least, that’s what I remember most about people I’ve known who’ve committed suicide. Unfortunately.
Almost 15 years ago, a friend of mine took too many of his prescribed pills one night and downed a bottle of whiskey with them. He knew exactly what he was doing, especially given that he wasn’t a drinker. (Didn’t drink at all.) Here’s how I found out about it: a mutual friend called me and said, “Well, he finally did it.” This, after years of therapy and medication and other treatments.
I prefer to think of this friend another way — as being gifted with a sharp, dry wit (when my then-roommate asked how to get to Richard Nixon’s funeral in Yorba Linda, my friend said, “Follow your nose.”), with the ability to perform all sorts of odd voices and to replicate a vast array of animal sounds live on stage with that voice, and as a writer and performer who always made me laugh.
But, foremost, I think of him as someone who killed himself. As in, “He was so good that I wish he hadn’t killed himself….” The two sentiments are inextricably linked.
And that’s how we’ll remember Robin Williams: as the incredibly successful funnyman and actor who killed himself. It’s not a legacy I wish on anyone.
August 12th, 2014 at 12:55 am
The fact that suicide is a leading cause of death, along with cancer and heart disease, leads me to conclude that is has medical origins as much as any. The sadness one feels from emotional trauma and the vicissitudes of life is very different from actual Depression, but many peole can’t make the distinction.